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So, the date went terrifically well. Your suitor hung on your every word as she stared into your eyes all evening and laughed at every one of your jokes. Knowing very little about wine – other than it is either red or white – you confidently ordered a nice bottle of reasonably priced Bordeaux, which went down a treat, and the dinner was excellent. 

Nerves had been rattling you leading up to the date but out of nowhere, you went into full-blown Prince Charming mode and impressed. Well done, you, for knocking it out of the park.

The date has gone so well, in fact, that you have been invited back to her place – and you didn’t see that coming. Figuring it would be at least three dates before you would get anywhere even close to her bedroom (or yours), you hadn’t accounted for a night of passion. Now that it is there on a plate, the wind has been taken out of your sails as panic sets in.

Plagued with negative thoughts during the taxi ride back to her apartment, you question yourself. It has been a while since your last clumsy fumble between the sheets, and that was a disaster. The panic ascends as you remember you are wearing cartoon Homer Simpson boxers, and the last time you groomed ‘down there’ was three Decembers ago, when you hoped for a lucky break at the office Christmas party.

Predictably, when the moment arrived, it was less of a pleasurable experience and more of an actual ordeal. The fault lies not with your lack of knowledge – you have a pretty firm grasp of the do’s and don’ts of sex – but more with your lack of confidence, which has abandoned you when it is needed most. Prince Charming has left the building, ladies and gentlemen, and has been replaced by Mr. Bean. 

If any of this sounds familiar, just know that you are not alone. This problem is way more common than you might imagine and happens to the best of men. The reason is also quite simple: confidenceThe good news is that there is a quick-fix solution to this age-old problem.

Confidence is Everything

Deep at the heart of any activity that requires a little skill, coordination, and know-how lies the undeniable fact that confidence is everything. The finest actors in the world are useless without it. Athletes everywhere rely on it to enhance their natural talents. Salespeople occasionally suffer from empty order books because of it. Confidence is as important – or even more important – than the actual skill set required for whatever it is you are doing.

Confidence is paramount to most things we do in life, including sex. You could be the world’s most orgasmic knee-trembling Casanova who knows his way around every square inch of the female form, but without confidence, you might as well be a 12th grader about to perform for the first time. 

Sex is an instinctual act that is buried deep into our DNA. We already know how to do it – this is something we are able to do on autopilot – and it is something we have done since the dawn of time. Of course, it is. You wouldn’t be reading this article (and we wouldn’t be writing it) if humans were not naturally aware of how to have sex in the first place.

The problem is that our early ancestors didn’t face societal pressures, and cared very little about being sensitive, considerate sex partners able to deliver pleasure. Modern-day man, on the other hand, needs to deliver something more than procreation. We need our partners to enjoy sex. This leads to pressure, which in turn knocks our confidence, especially if sex is not something you are used to doing.

Practice Makes Perfect

What better way to negate this problem than by practicing? In every other facet of life, we practice things in order to become adept at them. Learner drivers are bereft of confidence because they do not have enough practice behind the wheel. With enough hands-on lessons behind them, they become more adept and, as a result, more confident. 

The same could be said of an endless list of things. Soldiers use training weapons loaded with blanks until they become adept at firing real guns with real bullets. After-dinner speakers have probably practiced in front of a mirror thousands of times. And so on, and so forth.

You can also add sex dolls to that list. You might think that most sex doll owners use their silicon companions for pleasure only, but in thinking that, you would be wrong; a huge percentage of guys who buy them are doing so to practice, sharpen their skills, and become more confident for the real deal as a result, when the time comes.

It’s Only Logical

It makes sense, really, doesn’t it? You wouldn’t step into a boxing ring without having some practice on a punching bag – so why not use a sex doll to learn the ropes in the same way? Before committing yourself to the real thing, practice on the next best thing. A real-life, hot-as-hell Silicon Wives sex doll who will not judge you for making a few missteps.

Let’s face it, fellas – when it comes to lovemaking, we could all use a little more practice. And while some might turn to self-help books or online tutorials, others are taking a more hands-on approach, with the help of a trusty sex doll, that is.

Using a sex doll as a confidence-building tool has become all the rage in recent years. Not only does it provide a safe and judgment-free space to practice and improve your bedroom skills, but it can also help overcome performance anxiety and boost your confidence in the sack. And let’s be real, who doesn’t want to be a better lover?

I know what you’re thinking. “But isn’t using a sex doll kind of weird?” Well, sure, it might raise a few eyebrows at your next dinner party, but who cares? At the end of the day, what’s important is that you’re feeling confident and in control of your own pleasure. And let’s not forget the added bonus of reducing the stigma around sex and sexuality – because, let’s face it, it’s 2023, people. Time to leave those outdated taboos behind.

Using a sex doll to improve your lovemaking skills is no different than any other skill-building activity we do in our daily lives. Whether it’s practicing your guitar chops, perfecting your soufflé, or nailing that big presentation at work, practice makes perfect. And with a little hands-on experience with your favorite doll, you might just become the confident and skilled lover you’ve always wanted to be.

How to Use a Love Doll For Practice?

But just how do you use a doll for practicing the art of actual sex? For the most part, common sense comes into play here. You simply treat the sex doll as a living, breathing person and get to it. Let yourself go. Explore, have fun, throw in a few twists and turns, and experiment. There is no step-by-step guide here. Just grab your doll, and figure things out.

Having said that, we happen to know a thing or two about this subject and have compiled a short ‘how to’ section in order to give you a few pointers. Let’s take a look at what they are. 


The secret to using a sex doll for practicing real sex is to go into it with an open mind and a willingness to experiment. Don’t be afraid to get a little wild and explore your own sexuality. With a little practice, you might just become the expert lover you’ve always wanted to be, and then, how can you not be confident going forward?

And if all else fails, you are guaranteed to have a little fun in the process, right? Have you seen our sex dolls? We are talking about some pretty hot companions right here so either way, you can’t really lose. Sharpen your skills, impress your lover, and have a damn good time while figuring it all out. That, gentlemen, is the definition of a win-win.